Saturday, June 14, 2014

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How to Cross-Stitch and French Knot at the Same Time

Would you like to know how to center a French knot or simply knot-off an embroidery thread on a cross-stitch? By the end of these instructions you would have learned, not only how to knot, but also how to cross stitch.

What's needed/instructions:
  • Scrap fabric
  • An embroidery needle
  • Embroidery floss or regular thread
  • Scissors
  • Thimble
  1. Thread your needle. Insert it from the bottom of the fabric near your thumb where the cross-stitch is to be embroidered (act as if an imaginary line is guiding you).
  2. Take your needle from the left base to the right top -the size of the stitch should already be determined, but basically it's like a quarter to a half inch and resembles a "X", not a "T" with a head or cross.
  3. Bring it from the right base to the top left, directly above where you started, and take it over to the bottom right.
  4. Look at the center of your cross and bring your needle to the right. Be careful not to pick up any thread/floss.
  5. French Knot: Hold the tip of your needle about one or more inches above your thread/floss (depending on how thick you want your knot), then wrap it around the thread about four to six times. Bring the top thread/floss that's closest to your left hand near the center of the cross--as if you're making a circle--to insert the needle to the left side.
  6. It should look and field like a knot. End your knot by feeding it through the back of the stitch and inconspicuously through the fabric (if you can) for a clean finish.
  7. Regular knot: Bring your needle up from the bottom to the left center of the cross. Carry it to the right of the cross, but leave some slack for your finger to go through, then bring it to the left again. Put the needle through the first loop and then back through the second loop that consequently formed, pull the knot until it tightens, then put it closely to the right of the knot to end your knot as mentioned in the last sentence above.

  • Practice first.
  • If the knot doesn't hold repeat steps 1 through 6 again, or steps 1 through 4 and follow step 7 for the regular knot.
  • Even if this isn't your first time using a needle, it may be best to use a thimble to avoid getting stick.
  • And be careful not to cut yourself with the scissors, which you have to use to cut the thread/floss.

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How-to Find Legal Work-at-Home Jobs/Opportunities

Have you been wanting to work from the comfort of your home or wherever there is Internet access, or even telecommute? Well, you have finally reached the right site. The companies posted have either been researched and/or proven to work. A star next to the name tells you that they are either registered with the Better Business Bureau or is licensed to conduct business in Florida, and two stars mean both. 

Just because a research has been conducted, though, does not mean that you must not do your homework. As you will note, there may be companies listed that are not in the database of nor To learn more about the companies, click on the links below or visit further information, or to find out what employees are saying, visit If at anytime you need to send these, or other companies an instant e-fax, try Go to "How-to Send a Fax" to see how it works. Here are your steps to find the job/opportunity that is right for you:

  1. Research, research, research
  2. Write down the names of businesses you want to work for
  3. Schedule an appointment to learn of home-based offers
  4. Use specific and general search engines to find your choice (select one from here,
  5. Search business registration sites such as or to see if the business is practicing legally (they are also useful for direct searches)
  6. Google and to learn what people like yourself experienced
  7. Create an office space with the essentials to work effectively
  8. Be your own boss; create your own venture (type term papers, open a call center for a small business(es), sew, write, host visitors in your home, or buy and manage a lucrative website)
You may respond to if you know of any other opportunities/programs/offers that match the above criteria. We want to hear from you!!!

How to Create a Proper Cover Letter

Creating a cover letter is just as easy as putting together any other professional letter. The key components always remain the same. Strive to keep the same format so that you would not have to recall it when you have to submit another cover letter to the same employer--you never know who is taking notes of your consistency.

The resources at the end of these steps include sample cover letters, so that you can see their usual arrangement.

These steps and advice speak about typing your cover letter in block style and the parts thereof. For additional information on composing the cover letter, see "How to Write a Cover Letter" to understand what needs to be contained in it.

What's needed/instructions:

  1. LETTERHEAD: Align it one inch from the left margin--as well as the remaining parts--and a half to one inch from the top of the page. A letterhead shows that you are professional or serious about the good impression you want to make. This should include your name, mailing address, phone number and a decent or professional email address (e.g. not, but
  2. DATE: This should come one space beneath the letterhead. Aim to use a layout that is common to your country or one that you have no trouble remembering (January 1, 2010).
  3. COMPANY'S ADDRESS: The address comes one space below the date. It should follow this or a similar order: manager's name, position, company's name, mailing address, city-state-ZIP code, and country.
  4. SALUTATION: Enter a space after the address to greet the manager by his surname ("Dear Mr. Doe")--as if you are saying hello--to introduce your reason for writing. If the recruiter is female and you do not know if she is single or married, always use "Ms."
  5. REFERENCE (RE): This follows one space below the greeting. Always state the position for which you are applying. You should underline it or put it in bold print.
  6. BODY: Add another space to begin explaining your purpose for the cover letter. Write three to four paragraphs about why you are suitable to work with the employer and put a space between each one.
  7. CLOSING: Another space goes directly beneath the body. Always end your letter as if you are saying goodbye. Professionally, this would come in the form of "Yours faithfully" or "Yours sincerely."
  8. NAME/SIGNATURE: Enter three spaces from the closing for a hard copy and one for an electronic copy, then type your name. Sign in the space between the closing and your typed name on your printed cover letter.
  9. CARBON COPY (CC): If you intend on submitting your documents to more than one person in the same company, include "cc:" a space after your name, and list the names of the receiving parties.
  10. ATTACHMENT(S): If you send your cover letter along with one or more documents, always include the abbreviations "att." or "atts." a space below your name if you are not copying it to anybody. (You could also consider adding the names of the documents attached such as resume, certificates, degree etc, but it is not necessary. If you do, change the full stop to a colon.)
  11. SAVE: Store your template for future use on your computer and a USB or other external device.


  • Create a professional letterhead
  • Keep one format for your date
  • Address the cover letter to the company and greet the recruiter by his/her name
  • Caption the career opportunity
  • State your reason for writing in three to four paragraphs
  • Professionally conclude your cover letter
  • Type your name and sign above it when you print the cover letter.
  • Add "cc:" with individual names when forwarding your cover letter to more than one person
  • Normally, you attach a cover letter to a resume, so include "att."
  • Save your outline for future use


Free Sample Cover Letters

Thursday, November 4, 2010

How to Write a Career-Getting Cover Letter

Although a cover letter is the second most important part of an employment application, it is the first document employers see. In other words, it gives the resume a face, which in turn makes it the most important document. If your cover letter is unprofessional or appear to be nonsensical, the employer may be discouraged from reviewing your leading document, the resume.

When you write a cover letter, you should extract and emphasize distinguishing components of your resume. You want to highlight your "relative" work experience, knowledge, skills and abilities. Employers use this information to pre-screen potential employees to see if they are the best person for the job.

If you can sell yourself through a cover letter, you will most likely get that first interview. Once you reach this point, as a "sales person," you have to close the deal by proving that you are most fitting.

See "How to Create a Proper Cover Letter" for additional help; otherwise, follow these basic steps to assist you in pursuing your next career.

What's needed:

  • Computer
  • Copy paper
  • Linen or other quality paper
  • Printer
  • Pen

  1. You should already have your professional letterhead drafted.
  2. Revise your date each time you submit your cover letter.
  3. Avoid using a generic heading such as "Dear Sir or Madam" because it is safe for the employer to say that you are not familiar with the company. Personalize your cover letter even if you send it to a million employers because it conveys a sense of interest in the position and knowledge of the company.
  4. Let the employer know which position interests you. If you are an educated and experienced candidate, they will consider hiring you until they can properly position you.
  5. Express why you are applying for the career opportunity in three or four paragraphs. 
    1. The first paragraph should express your objective or interest in the job, and explain how you heard about it.
    2. The second paragraph should state what makes you so ideal for the position. Here you can say that you have received your licensure or you are certified or a specialist; note how many years you have been working in the field; projects you worked on; things you invented; and how you can make a difference if you are considered.
    3. The third paragraph should compliment the second by pointing out your personal characteristics such as dependability, honesty or pro-activeness.
    4. The fourth paragraph could be a part of the third, but looks better if it stands alone. It simply thanks the employer for the opportunity to apply for a possible career at that organization and articulates your confidence in employment.
    5. Never offer personal details such as marital status or age; or irrelevant information such as talking about your fishing skills when you should exclusively be highlighting swimming.
    6. Never sound desperate, beg, or be negative. Those are certain not to get you on your journey to your lifelong dream.
    7. Salary and shifts should not be included. If they need to know, attach a supplemental document with this information and express in clear terms that the salary is negotiable.
    8. Avoid exposing details that are offensive, can cause bias or otherwise be legally unethical.
  6. Remember to close your cover letter professionally because even if you know the owner very well, you are not writing a personal letter. Just because business has, "i" and "u," does not mean that friendship comes first. "I" and "you" simply mean that you have to work together as a team for the good of the company.
  7. If you send an electronic cover letter, it is best not to affix your legal signature because of fraud and other criminal activities taking place on the Internet. Just type your name a space below the closing, using the same font style and size as the rest of the document. However, before you go to that interview, be sure to add about three spaces on the hard copy for you to sign or stamp it.
  8. Unless you are applying to a major cooperation, or they ask you to "cc" your document, it is not necessary. If the employer asks you to copy your application, you should notify the initial party of other receiving parties whereas he may not forward it again.
  9. Always type "att." or "atts." to indicate that there are other documents attached for mail or delivery of your application, but you do not need to say what they are. Contrarily, this is not required for an email cover letter because the email itself tells if there are attachments.
  10. Backup, then print your cover letter on copy paper. You can see mistakes better on paper rather than steering at a computer screen. It is actually best to let someone else read or edit your cover letter to ensure that it is the best from different eyes. After making possible changes, print the final document on quality paper. Employers can easily presume you are meticulous and that it may be a reflection of work.


  • Make a proper letterhead
  • Keep your date current
  • Personalize each employer's address
  • Point out the position for which you are applying
  • In three or four paragraphs, state how you heard about the job and your interest or objective; highlight skills that you have concerning the position; mention personal attributes that makes you the best fit; and thank the company for taking time to review your application
  • Close your cover letter
  • Sign the hard copy of the cover letter, but your typed name is sufficient for email submissions
  • Include the names of individuals whom you may have to copy your cover letter
  • Staple your cover letter to the resume when mailing or delivering it and include "att." or "atts."


Free Sample Cover Letters

How to Pray for Results

Praying is not only where and how it occurs such as at church, every morning or evening, at mealtime, with your eyes closed or at a prayer group. What is more important is the method or ritual you form that gets you results.

It is extremely important to realize the outcome in your mind to make it come to reality. What does this mean? Never pray that something eventually becomes true. Pray for it now because you need it now. If you say, "I am" then you are; if you say "I was" then you were; if you say "I will" then you will, but when?

Pray in the present or present continuous tense for the things you need and want. Pray in the past tense for your entire negative past behaviors or attitude towards things or situations. Below is a model prayer for people who wish to be a better person. You could use this pattern for any problem whether you are atheist, agnostic, or a different disciple. You only have to adjust it by focusing on that specific issue.

This model prayer is created for someone who wants to be a nice person:

"God, I know that I have not been a nice person in the past. Thank you for giving me knowledge and understanding to recognize this and the power to change it.

I spent most of my life blaming family, my surroundings, and the society for my faults. Being "a victim of circumstance" was my motto--a crutch to make everything feel right. From this day forth Lord, I am taking action. I stopped swearing because my vocabulary is bigger than I made it out to be. Besides, I was wrong for believing that I had to tell everyone off. I don't like when people are rude, insulting and disrespectful to me, so why did I think it was okay for me to treat them so mean? I failed everything and everyone because it was a conscious decision.

Now that I am focus, I no longer shine light on all the bad things I see in people and make light of their situations. My life is worthy, and thank you for making me care enough to know now that all my works are for the good of humankind, even in the absence of their good. Just because someone treats me horribly doesn't mean that I should bend to his or her low level. I am rising above mediocrity and I pray that they rise with me.

At this time, I extend my apology to people that I caused pain, and ask that you grant success, peace, love, wealth, perfect health, happiness and forgiveness to our families and us.

Thank you God for encouraging me to do right by everyone, every day."

What's needed:

  • Patience
  • Gratitude
  • Faith
  • Awareness
  • Understanding
  • Love

  1. ACKNOWLEDGMENT: Identify who or what you are praying to.
  2. RECOGNITION: Make notes of everything or excuses that you suppose are causing your hardship and/or preventing you from performing or achieving. 
  3. FOCUS: State specifically what the problem is. For example, in the prayer above, people who are not nice tend to accuse people or blame bad experiences for making them the way they are. However, in truth, they know that wrongfully making someone emotional, embarrassed, laughed at etc excite them, or being rude, insulting and disrespectful weirdly makes them feel good about themselves. These negative forces are the focus. If you tie your energy up on what may be causing the problem, and never do anything to solve the problem, you will always be stuck. So, work toward fixing the problem at hand.
    1. When it relates to illnesses, conditions or diseases, avoid naming it because that way, you claim it. Remember what was said earlier? If you say, "I have" then it is yours. This does not mean you should ignore your doctor's advice and treatment. Look at prayer as a supplement for your sickness.
  4. REQUISITION: Ask for good things to become of the people involved just as you would for yourself.
  5. APPRECIATION: Now that resolve is under way, close your prayer by acknowledging how thankful you are.


  • Know who or what you are praying to
  • Acknowledge your excuses
  • Request for good things for yourself including everyone
  • Be direct about what the problem is
  • Express in your prayer how grateful you are to everybody and/or everything
  • If you have an illness, disease or condition, seek medical advice
  • You may or may not get results from prayer alone, especially if, in the back of your mind, you don't believe it is possible
  • Timing of outcome varies from person-to-person


How to Pray

How to Chain Stitch

Chain stitch is an adorable embroidery stitch that is use on various types of linen or cotton such as tablecloths, clothes, underwear and more.

Bring the good old days back when people used to decorate their drawers, nightstands, TVs or center tables. Perhaps, this can be your project--make a runner for your drawer and apply chain stitches to the edges.

While you will not learn how to make runners here, you will learn how to embroider chain stitches.

What's needed:

  • Embroidery floss
  • Embroidery needle
  • Scissors
  • Tracing paper
  • Tracing wheel
  • Linen or cotton fabric
  1. Cut your fabric to practice.
  2. Place the tracing paper where you want your line or design to be. Take the tracing wheel and draw what you desire.
  3. Thread your needle and knot one end.
  4. Insert the needle at the back of the fabric. Hold the floss to the left with your thumb (sew towards you). Push the needle back in the original hole; bring it ¼” toward you to form a loop when you move your thumb.
  5. Continue going back in the last hole you made while holding the left floss down until you form a loop and carry this forward and backward motion to the end of your design.
  6. To end, rather than putting the needle in the last hole, bring it over, as near the edge of the floss as possible to make another knot at the back of the fabric.
  7. Put the needle under a stitch; hold the loop you just created, put the needle through it and through the last loop that you made as a result; and then pull firmly while holding down the beginning floss to tighten the knot.
  8. Your stitch should look exactly like its name, a chain. You can choose to make the stitches short or long, but the shorter ones look more attractive.


  • Draw your design on a piece of paper so that you would not make any mistakes with the tracing wheel and paper
  • Or, do something freestyle using tailor’s chalk to make fewer mistakes

Saturday, January 30, 2010

How to Lead an Enjoyable Life

A young girl had been walking down a lonely road for many years with her head on the ground. She unknowingly allowed anger to overtake her and low self-esteem nearly bludgeoned her to death. Yes of course, she carried this behavior into her adult life although she thought that she had it together.

In the past, she depended upon God and strangers from whom she found strength and encouragement to lead a better life. Often times, the message was broadcasted by way of radio, books, TV, or a Good Samaritan who saw her pain.

She struggled for perfection because that is what she thought her savior who piloted her wanted--only to learn that perfection is not to have. Understanding this, she knew that her flight through life should be that of good, and she should not let mistakes dismay her. Therefore, after erring repeatedly, she drew her own conclusions based in part on the wisdom of Dr. Joseph Murphy (1898-1981), a passed monk and philosophical writer of over 30 books ( who promoted optimum health and prosperity for the subconscious mind through the power of prayers.

In summary, she concluded that she should base her life upon her ideals and that of those around her. She knew that she could not tailor her life to meet everyone's needs, so she did what she thought was best.

Here are steps that lead that woman, me, to a better life and I hope that through my model that you too can find what works best for you.

What's needed:

  • A clear mind
  • Ability to quit bad habits
  • A good support system
  • The will to want to lead a better life

  1. WORSHIP: If you believe in spirituality, no matter what name you give that greater power, put yourself, people who are in dire need (call them by name), and the entire world before that force by way of praying daily because it turns out to be better than any vitamin supplement.
  2. HEALTH: Know your health needs and work on them. Just because you pray for good health does not mean that your body will suddenly be flooded with nourishment, nor will that open wound close by itself. If you have not the faintest hint as to how to solve the health concerns, you may have, ask questions, research, visit a doctor and follow through on the greatest action plan for your well-being.
  3. DIET AND EXERCISE: A balanced meal plan, regular exercise and suggested supplements for your daily needs may prevent some illnesses and conditions. Talk to a nutritionist or your doctor to maximize these requirements.
  4. SUBCONCIOUS MIND: Mind purification is essential to a healthy life. Sometimes we run of course merely by receiving subliminal messages, so imagine consciously feeding the mind poison. Detoxify your mind by serving it positively, which includes promoting peace, love, respect, happiness, goodwill etc. 
  5. LIFESTYLE: Free yourself of bad habits that are not isolated to addictions such as smoking or drinking. If you spend money you borrowed in the first place, then borrow to pay it back or default for no acceptable reason, change your ways. If you party all night into the wee hours of the morn knowing that, you have to be to work at nine, change your ways. Those and other habits are wrong, but you can make it right because you know what is bad for you and those around you (the environment may be in on this too).
  6. CAREER: Position yourself where you want to be. Settling for anything knowing that you are somewhat disconnected from it is not satisfactory. This does not mean that you should quit working either. Do what you have to do to get to where you need to be. It may be as simple as taking a leap of faith into a new career or getting someone to help you nail your stronger skills into a profession that is the right fit for you.
  7. FINANCE: Nothing is wrong with wanting to be rich or loving money. Take this scenario, if money is in fact dirty, why do you accept, long for and work so hard for this pollution? Bring back yesteryear--live in caves, feed off the land and travel by animals. Be sure to find yourself some gold to trade. Whatever your needs are, make the call, make money yours truly. Always have a plan on how to earn and spend it. More importantly, keep yourself and people out of debt wherever possible.
  8. DWELLING: Dwell on what is right for you and especially people you live and work with and you will truly be able to say you have a happy home, a magnificent life.
  9. ATTITUDE: When you calculate the total sum of your newly acquired behavior, you cannot help but to have a pleasing attitude. You will feel it, and others will experience it. If you should dip, remind yourself of Step 4 and surround yourself with positive people.
  10. GRATITUDE: Express appreciation to everyone and everything that brought you together. For all that is going on in your life, just offer a simple thank you, and show or tell someone how you were rebirth. Knowledge under mounds of dirt or floating out at sea does not help the living. Their way might not be working, so it would not hurt for them to try something new.


  • Do what is best for you and those around you and pray daily
  • Consult with a physician for any health concerns you may have
  • When in doubt about the best meal plan, supplements and exercise routine, confer with specialists
  • Be careful what you feed your thoughts and be aware of concealed messages
  • Eradicate bad habits and do everything else in moderation or with sound judgment
  • Learn to love the job you have until you can find a career that is suitable for you and you for it
  • If you think money has no value or you have a bad attitude towards it, donate it
  • You should spend most of your time at home, but if you have a second home, make them happy ones
  • Have a good attitude and always give thanks
  • Aim for good without exploiting your powers


How to Backstitch

At some point in all of our lives, we will need to have something we love so much stitched.

Here you will learn a very basic stitch that will enable you to do it yourself when there is no one else or no sewing machine to turn to.

What's needed:

  •  Needle
  • Thread
  • Thimble
  • Stick pins
  • Pin cushion
  • Scissors
  • Seam ripper
  • Threader (optional)
  1. Bring the pieces together. 
  2. Hold them in place with stick pins. Depending on what you are sewing or patching up, you only need to stitch a ¼” from the edge. You may insert the pins in the direction you will sew (if you are right handed, sew towards your left hand and vice versa) as a guide.
  3. Thread your needle. Once you thread the needle, its length should be no longer than half your arm’s length. One end must be longer than the other and no knotting is required.
  4. Insert the needle from the bottom to the top of the garment as close to the edge as possible. Pull until about a ½” of the end of the thread is between your finger and the fabric. Put the needle near the hole to one side of the thread and up to the next side to fasten it. Pull the thread lightly to ensure that it is secure. If you pull hard your material will gather, but it should remain flat.
  5. Take the needle 1/8” (half of ¼”) to the back from where it is and the same measurement in front of that same hole. This means you are bringing it 1/8” towards your sewing hand to push it 1/8” towards your guiding hand. Look at the stitch beneath, it should not measure more than ¼”.
  6. Each successive stitch should follow the same back and forth motion until you reach the end, and you will finish opposite/similar to how you started. You may then push the needle about 1” down the center of your seam, bring it to the bottom, slightly pull it, then cut it. You should not see any raw or loose thread showing.


  • Every time you bring the needle to the top of the fabric, take it one small stitch behind your first hole and keep going back and forth until completed
  • If you feel your stitch is not straight enough, rip it and start over
  • Use the stick pins as a guide
  • Sew safely

How to Find the Right Person for a Healthy Relationship IV |

This is the final stage--the storybook ending where the limo driver takes you into the orange rays of the sun. However, there is no ending for romance. The moment you give up is when love is lost in the shadows and divorce engulfs your every thought. At that point, you begin to get confused and convince yourself that twenty years of marriage was all a lie. Don’t let love die! If anything, keep doing things to make it better.

What's needed:

  • Establish your needs and wants to determine that of theirs and know that no two persons are alike.
  1. Any good or healthy relationship is a work in progress.
  2. Proceed to marriage after each important question has an adequate answer.
  3. No point in waiting around because the longer you take, the less likely it becomes for you to want to get to this level. By adding marriage to the equation of what was working so well for so many years, gives you jitters and some people fear the worse and sadly realize their fears, after all, people typically have difficulty adjusting to change that they don’t know is favorable.
  4. Before you go to the altar, still make sure that you understand answers pertaining to marriage. From the early stage, you should know if you want a family and how large. What size wedding do you want? Where do you want the service? Do you want to invest money in a home or begin life being officially in debt? Is putting on a show more important than planning your lives? If you are opposites, how will they respond to this added pressure?
  5. No matter how long you have been together, go for marriage counseling to fill in possible gaps. Nothing beats guidance. You may discover that you didn’t ask everything you need to know. Besides, after being with a person for a while, sometimes you don’t consider their feelings, not knowing that they might have a different outlook compared to what they thought when you first met on that blissful day. It could be a matter as simple as eating too much of the same thing, although you used to love it, you no longer do because you had too much of it.
  6. If the counselor advise you to wait longer before signing off, take the advice and run with it.
  7. If it is time, walk down the aisle with an open mind, being the same person you were before the proposal. What is with all the wedding drama? This part causes the relationship to get rocky anyway. If you find it to be frustrating, discuss it long before the engagement and wedding ceremony.


  • Follow your counselor’s advice
  • Work at making your relationship better by doing the things that brought you together and adding more beauty to it
  • These writings are strictly perceptions, understandings and beliefs of what a healthy relationship is
  • The resources are provided for professional reference and do not support this article by any means

How to Find the Right Person for a Healthy Relationship III

The time it takes for your lover to get to know you differs from person-to-person. One year of courtship should be sufficient time to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. While you may continue to learn things about them, if your sugar-apple is matured, chances are they are grounded with principles, values and standards that are least likely to disappear. They are what you need to focus on. If they shift their beliefs every time they are out of their comfort zone (perhaps in a foreign environment or place), be concerned; if not, uplift their strengths and work on their weaknesses--everybody has them.

By now you should be in love; can't keep your hands to yourselves; calling each other various pet names if it is your thing. The both of you should already have thoughts planned in your heads to make a proposal or tie yourselves to serious decisions such as living together or sharing a credit card or preparing for a family.

What's needed:

  • Establish your needs and wants to determine that of theirs and know that no two persons are alike.
  1. After the both of you decide that you can enter a healthy relationship on a serious level, sleep at each other's house. If shacking up (living together before marriage) is against your culture or custom, "sleepovers" will further reveal who they are. The fact is, you never truly know someone until you live with them. People expose more of themselves when they are in their surroundings.
  2. See how well they take care of themselves. If it matters to you, are their clothes thrown around or are they in their proper place; does the room smell stuffy or is it fresh; are the dishes clean or are they dirty? What reasons are offered for each choice?
  3. Observe their behavior and attitude towards their siblings, parents, or things you do or don't do.
  4. Bring habits you may find annoying to their attention. If they care enough they will make necessary adjustments or stop what they are doing.
  5. Compare answers. You don't always have to do this with people. Look at the step below.
  6. Confirm what they say at a later date to make sure they were being honest. For example, if they say they love gospel music, ask them who is their favorite artist. If they have every genre of music except gospel, you might have caught them in a lie.
  7. Before you make surprising visits at their home or job, ask them how they feel about it and why. If they don't want you to do that and they don't have a logical answer, get over them, relax for a while and find another date. If they are fine with this, they may be the one.
  8. Involve someone you trust to help you figure things out--only if you feel stuck or you fear asking or telling them something. Never discuss your personal relationship with someone you have trust issues with because they will throw it in your face as soon as they have the opportunity to do so.
  9. Keep doing things together and searching the person through the things they do and say or don't do and say, the people they choose to be around, their work, and their family, but don't be too judgmental because people don't choose their family.


  • Always do exciting things to keep the relationship alive
  • At no time take them for granted
  • Sleep together. You may learn that their snoring, flatulence, scratching or lack of sexual control is unbearable

How to Find the Right Person for a Healthy Relationship II

You should be building on trust in this phase. You should be comfortable referring to and introducing each other as boyfriend and girlfriend.

Build on the friendship by getting close to each other's family and friends. People are protective of what they have, so climb a ladder to be at the top of that inner circle. Know that you have already laid a strong foundation, but you must properly place blocks before the roof goes on or inhabit a home. Complete each phase to get to that final step.

You also have to move slowly because if you get too emotionally attached to them, it makes leaving difficult even when you know the relationship is not working, and it is compounded when family and friends are involved.

What's needed:

  • Establish your needs and wants to determine that of theirs and know that no two persons are alike.
  1. Keep strengthening the friendship.
  2. Get to know their friends and family. You may get more answers to the same questions, which can be a deciding factor to move forward.
  3. Find out how they feel about being tested. By doing this, you can observe any attitude changes. For example, do the opposite of what you normally do, but be careful because they may think you are unstable. If they say, "It is getting late, I need to take you home." rebut, "The night is young, why spoil a magnificent evening." Every relationship needs flexibility. Or, if you wear colorful makeup, apply natural colors to see if they would say, "You forgot your makeup." It could be a hint that they like the other look more. Be creative, not deceptive.
  4. Getting to know yourself is not clean cut, so expect getting to know people always to be a challenge.
  5. Dine in more, but still go out on dates. When you decide to cook, don't always ask what they want. Just don't give them food that you know they don't like. And don't frequently ask what you think about this and that for simple things; it will make you sound unsure of yourself. Just don't do things that you know they think are appalling. Incite good, not bad.
  6. Be spontaneous. Don't always plan things, or keep doing the same old stuff. Try new things at the spur of the moment. This and the above steps are ways of doing things to observe possible changes in behavior.
  7. Measure the pros and cons. If the good out weighs the bad, consider taking the relationship to another level. Bear in mind that those bad things cannot be serious because even after you live with the person for years you will still be learning about them as situations and circumstances change.


  • Don't overstep your boundary
  • Do things the both of you like and want to do
  • Be secured
  • Incite good, not bad
  • Be creative, not deceptive

How to Find the Right Person for a Healthy Relationship I

This is the first of four articles that give you tips and advices on finding the person who suits you best for a lasting and meaningful intimate relationship.

To model any good relationship one should conclude that it starts at home. Learning begins at home. If your family relationship is dysfunctional, it is extremely important that you enter personal relationships cautiously because when you don't history repeats itself.

Before you begin to think about what you want in someone, you have to make sure that you possess those same qualities; otherwise, you are not being true to yourself much less the person you plan on pursuing, and you are setting the path for contention and more likely destruction.

When you are certain that you are the right person for a healthy relationship, then you can start your quest to get in someone's life.

What's needed:

  • Establish your needs and wants to determine that of theirs and know that no two persons are alike.
  1. Ensure that you are as right as you want your potential lover to be.
  2. Date. If your purpose is to find that ideal person to marry or be in a committed relationship with, date one person, not a slew of persons. After mixing and mingling with so many friends and acquaintances, you should have your eyes set on that special someone.
  3. Let them know upfront what your intentions are. Not that you love them and want to get married, rather, you want to know them; if you think you are a match, establish a trusting friendship in the absence of one; and eventually have a lasting romantic relationship.
  4. Go on dates. Dine, watch a movie or theatrical performance, dance, or do something that is not typical of dating that the both of you love and can spend time together getting to know each other. If you are already friends, don't take it for granted because being friends and lovers are not equals.
  5. If they want to know what you are looking for in a mate, don't tell them because they may conform.
  6. Ask every question that is important to you such as "Are you a neat freak?" or "What are your habits?" or "Are you planning on having a family?" Never ask about "bad habits" because their bad might be your good.
  7. Talking is good, but sometimes you have to do things to force a reaction. Put ice on their back when the weather is pretty hot. Do they respond negatively or positively? Be playful, not crazy.
  8. Unless your date normally visits you at home, don't invite them there until you are sure they are the one. It really does not look good having different people coming in and out of your door on a regular basis. You appear as indecent and shaky. Although you want to be optimistic about them, you have to plan for those "what if it doesn't work out" moments. Other than that, the neighbors are watching. This is not the right place or time to be a tiger, your reputation can be at stake.
  9. Don't confuse sexual feelings with reality. You may be seriously attracted to them, so you cannot avoid those natural hormonal responses. Remember that these feelings can exist when no one is on your mind, so imagine when you have someone before you who seem to meet all your desires. Tread lightly. You may be ignoring obvious signs that tell you to move on. Listen! If you have any doubts, it is another kicker that tells you to wait a while longer to have those questions answered.
  10. Keep dating for as long as it takes both of you to get to know each other, be comfortable, have a sense of security and trust.


  • Follow your mind in the face of uncertainty ("My mind told me not to do that")
  • Follow your heart in the face of your drifting mind ("Deep down, I knew I was acting on misguided feelings")

How to Draft a Pattern: Pattern Drafting

This is the first of a series of "How-to Draft a Pattern" articles.

What is pattern drafting? Pattern drafting is drawing a design on paper to be used as a model repeatedly. In this case, it is one of the first elements of sewing. Whether or not you use a blueprint, you have to put the design on the fabric before you cut or sew.

Sewing is a hobby anyone can do if they get a little guidance and encouragement. This and simplified articles like it will pull you in to a creative world or further develop your skills.

You will work on various projects such as a blouse, skirt, dress, or shirt that you can easily build on with practice.

The objective of this particular article is to teach you some basics in drafting patterns as you explore the world of sewing.

What's needed:

  • Tape measure
  • Pencil
  • Eraser
  • 36" roll of brown paper
  • 36" ruler, L-square, or French curve
  • Scissors
  1. Buy all the materials you need depending on your project.
  2. Draw your design or have the original garment near by.
  3. Use large paper bags, gift wrapping paper or newspaper to draft your pattern. For durability, buy a roll of brown paper. Unless you plan on making pattern drafting a hobby, you only need to buy sufficient paper for your plan.
  4. Take your measurements. Include the seam allowance.
  5. Look at each part of the clothing item and copy it to your paper. For example, if you are making a simple skirt, it should have 3 sections: waistband, front and back (4 if the back has a center seam). Follow that order when you begin to draft the design.
    1. Examples of mistaken seams: 
      1. Darts at the waistline or bust is not the same as a seam (where sections or edges join). They are used to give the garment a better fit. 
      2. Ribbing is raised vertical lines usually found on a dress from the shoulder, across the bust, to the waist or tail of a dress, or from the waist to the hips or end of a skirt, so look closely and calculate the extra material to inlcude in the pattern.
  6. Always draw your pattern from the top, down and away from you.
  7. Use half measurements where necessary such as half of a blouse, skirt or dress front or back to form an imaginary fold on your plan. It will save you paper and time.
  8. Draw a 6" line with arrows pointing towards it as an indicator that the fabric must be folded for that portion. Similar to the last sentence in the step above, it will save you fabric and money.
  9. Mark the pattern W for wrong or R for right or B for back etc.
  10. Cut your pattern with a scissors dedicated for paper because it will eventually be too dull for fabric.


  • Ensure that the measurements are right before you apply it to your pattern
  • Use an old sheet to experiment with before you make your new outfit
  • Use an adjustable mannequin to fit your suit on
  • Put the suit on the wrong side to better adjust seams


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Tuesday, December 29, 2009

How to Make Fried Ripe Plantains

According to, Musa (plantain) originated in Southeast Asia and Oceania. It also said that people think plantains reached the caribbean by way of the Portuguese Franciscan friars.

Fried ripe plantains belong to many cultures now. How ever it got in The Bahamas, it has been served on Bahamian plates long before my time and still is.

A real nice ripe plantain has to be covered in dark spots to be ready for frying. The darker, the softer; the riper, the sweeter. Firm or soft, fried plantains are a side dish that I hope you enjoy.

What's needed:

  • 1 dark ripe plantain
  • Oil
  • Frying pan
  • Knife
  • Plate
  • Paper towel
  • Salt (optional)
  1. Turn the stove on low to medium heat, depending on your heat setting. Heat the frying pan a little.
  2. Cover its surface with oil. Avoid deep frying, so the plantains won't be saturated with fat.
  3. At the same time you will be preparing the plantains. Peel the plantain, then cut it in half. Make 6-8 rectangular or 8-10 round slices.
  4. Fry them on both sides until they are golden brown.
  5. Remove them from the heat and place them on a plate with 2-4 pieces of paper towel to soak up the excess oil. Flip them over to another plate to do the same or use the paper towels in your hands and press down lightly to remove the oil from its top.
  6. Sprinkle with salt (optional, depending on the sweetness) and serve while hot.


  • The darker, the softer and sweeter the plantain means dessert
  • A yellow plantain with black spots indicate that it is ripe
  • Don't press too hard to soak up the oil because the plantains may stick to the paper towel
  • It is tastier when served hot
  • A smoking pan means the oil is too hot; remove it from the heat and turn the stove off


Friday, December 18, 2009

How to Begin the New Year Without Stress

If the New Year could talk, his annual lecture would probably sound like this:

"Happy New Year? Yeah right, some thanks! Old Year gets 3 months of celebration; all I get is a 10-second count down and a 10-4 to let me know I'm here. To add insult to injury, you treat us as if we're not related. You greet St. Valentine with complaints of not having sufficient funds because you spent all your money on Thanksgiving parties and gifts for Christmas. No, I can't pay your mortgage, neither your rent, nor your children's school fee. I am not President Obama, so don't expect me to bail you out of debt. Aren't you sorry for acting as if I'm responsible for your weight gain? I thought not, because you turn around and try to dump it all on me. Resolution? Resolution your November and December! I must admit that I'm tired of hearing your empty promises. Each year it's the same drama, and you wonder why I'm screwed up. Ha!"

Recession or not, we have to start treating the New Year better than we have been, so its fiery tone can change. To make the following adjustments, you will need to be adaptable to change, a whole lot of patience because it's going to take some time to get used to and understanding loved ones who can assist on this journey.

Because the New Year will then be stress free, really, the earth will have pleasant tremors.

What's needed:

  • Adaptability
  • Patience
  • Understanding relatives, friends and associates

  1. Have a family contingency plan. When times are tough, be it with the economy or earners, have alternative ways of how you will spend money on non-essential things. Note the following examples:
    1. If you normally buy everyone what they want no matter how expensive items are, consider the same approach, but a less expensive brand.
    2. Switch upscale for downscale. Buy the store brand rather than the manufacturer's brand, or use cloth napkins as oppose to disposable napkins. Don't let people tell you that you are cheap, for you are being frugal and your products have quality. If you shop at the store, their name must have some worth.
    3. Draw your names from a bag, or buy for one person within the household.
    4. Go green. Save money here, spend it there.
    5. Rather than painting the house, pressure hose it or wash it the old-fashion way--a rag and a bucket of water renews any rundown boxing.
  2. Inform your family when the plan has to be implemented.
  3. Don't let your friends or co-workers pressure you in to gift giving if you honestly cannot afford it. If you think it is a must, label a jar, "Work Contributions." From the start of the year, put all your coins in it, then use that money SOLELY to buy a present. Some companies dictate what the minimum spending money should be. Unless they literally help you in your times of need, don't buy into it. You can always buy an expensive gift on sale. The person will not know how much you paid for it.
  4. Create a budget and keep it.
  5. Pay all your bills first. Go shopping with left over money.
  6. Shop Smart. Look for great deals long before the holiday rolls in.
  7. Never sacrifice needs for wants. When Step 5 has not been met, it should be easy for you to say, "No, not this year." Until you organize yourself better, you should keep putting presents off.
  8. Create rules and follow them, so your family would not have to hear you say each year, "I can't afford it."
  9. Don't give happy a miserable costume, and the New Year will be in on it!
  10. Repeat each step as necessary and you will sincerely have a Merry Christmas and a Stress-Free New Year.
  11. Tips & Warnings
  12. Budget, write it down and keep it
  13. Have 2 or 3 plans (1 regular and 1 or 2 contingencies)
  14. If you think you cannot afford to buy gifts, spend wisely and differently; you will be surprised at how much money you save for them
  15. If it is easy for you to support bad habits, it must be easy for you to buy presents for your family at the least


Sunday, December 13, 2009

How to Buy Gifts for Everyone

As you know, you have to think twice about how you spend your money. Still, no one wants to be left out even when one is aware of your circumstances.

The resource at the end of this article offers a number of places that will help you decide where to shop while doing it smartly.

If you have a strong desire for giving and receiving, pass this message on. You will be amazed at how much more gifts you will buy or how much money you save.

What's needed:

  1. Know who you should and want to shop for.
  2. Find out what their desires are to leave a good taste in their mouths. You may not be able to fulfill their wishes, but at least you will have an idea on what to buy.
  3. Depend on writing everything down because the mind fails the best of the best of us.
  4. Set certain times aside when you will commit to not spending your money on unnecessary things such as junk food, fast food or catering to bad habits.
  5. Use the savings along with available cash/credit to purchase gifts for everyone.
  6. Throughout the year, look for sales, namely, clearances. Ask the clerks or managers around what time they normally have them. After-holiday sales like Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years are especially beneficial. Another major sale option to consider is garage sales. You will find new products that were never opened at extremely affordable prices.
  7. Shop fearlessly. Bargain where you can, when you can. Sellers need your money.
  8. Buy from your community stores. Smaller stores will mark down prices for you sooner than a larger store would.
  9. Lastly, make your face known. By buying during different times, you will appear as a regular customer. It may earn you extra discounts and you may be able to enter sweepstakes a number of times depending on the store. In addition, some stores give free gifts after you spend a certain amount of money.

Tips & Warnings

  • Create a list/plan
  • Budget
  • Minimize/stop unnecessary spending
  • Watch and listen for clearances


Shop Smart

Friday, December 11, 2009

How to Avoid an Embarrassing Pregnancy

Some women hang their heads in shame when they get pregnant "unexpectedly." They welcome sex, but what results from it is a shocker.

Perhaps sex and/or baby before marriage is against their customs; to say that it is not their belief is tongue-in-cheek. Some of them have the wrong attitude towards other women who birth children before marriage, or those who never get married for that matter. Consequently, they look at the pregnancy and in some cases the birth as a mistake.

Pregnancy is so beautiful. No one should make people/oneself feel like it is an embarrassment. The womb that brings forth a child/children should be exalted, for so many women want, but cannot have.

You may say avoiding an embarrassing or unwanted pregnancy is quite simple. Stay away from sex. Unless we stop being humans, that will never happen.

Keep these pointers in mind:

What's needed:

  • Will
  • Ability
  • Know-how
  • Skills
  • Good attitude

  1. Plan your pregnancy just as you would sex, which is for responsible adults who can bear and take care of the fruits of their labor.
  2. Never look down on people who get pregnant before marriage, or who never get married. If you are against pregnancy under those terms, then you must be against sex too.
  3. It is not good to brag about your feelings on pregnancy because it may blow in your face.
  4. Sex is life. Never treat it with scorn.
  5. Avoid consuming excessive strong drinks.
  6. Shun people, places, things and thoughts that lead you astray.
  7. Choose your partner wisely.
  8. Touching or withdrawing is not safe even if you have done it hundreds of times.
  9. Have control. If you are "in the moment" knowing that you do not want a baby, then get "out of the moment."
  10. Sex is how we procreate, so don't risk pregnancy if YOU (NOT SOMEONE ELSE) are not in the position to care for and love that innocent child.
  11. If you are a consenting adult, ask your doctor which double/triple protection you should use:
    1. Condom and spermicide
    2. Condom and the pill
    3. Condom and the diaphragm
    4. Condom and tied fallopian tubes (you may get pregnant without a condom)
    5. Condom, spermicide and the pill
    6. Condom, spermicide and the diaphragm
    7. Condom with spermicide and vaginal inserts


  • No sex, no baby
  • Accept and deal with the risk(s) involved with sex
  • Pregnancy occurs while using protection